Tools Definitions and Charts Sheet - Thoughts-Feelings-Attitude-Experience/RUACAT/Dimensions
Tools Definitions and Chart Sheet: RUACAT/Incident-Trauma Dynamic
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Did you get your ACEs Score yet? It will cost you five minutes, yet it can begin to shed light on years of self-harming and harmful to others behaviors. The best part - there is a way to heal the emotional wounds even one of these events has caused you. SAFE's Trauma Informed Program and Services is THE source of the map and tools for building RESILIENCE and HOPE.
The good news is that understanding trauma and its implications can benefit not only separate individuals but entire organizations and communities. Become a Trauma Informed organization with the SAFE Program, Inc. Begin today.
Making a list of Resolutions for 2018?
Affirmations and Resolutions might backfire with disappointment and despair.
Giving ourselves the love (RUACAT) we desire and deserve energizes us and lifts us up.
Learn to how to RUACAT yourself and others with the SAFE Counseling Program, Inc.
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When Life serves you Lemons, reach for your Meat-and-Potatoes Entree first, consider the Gravy and only then make Lemonade in the Fourth Dimension. For Entree Recipe and for Directions to the Fourth Dimension, please call John Anthony @ 215-750-0323.
An informational session and a demonstration of the SAFE Tools can have a profound impact on the way you see and understand yourself and your future, and on the way you relate to others at work, school or home.
ENROLLING YOUTH, 13 to 18 years old
Girls' and boys' gender specific Emotional Management groups or individual treatment with a trauma-informed and resilience-focused curriculum. Call to learn more, to schedule an interview and to reserve a seat. Now working with family referrals and with court-mandated clients.
TUNE-UP WORKSHOP: Monthly Event. Call to confirm date and availability.
Besides ongoing Weekly Emotional Healing and Emotional Management Support Groups for men and for women the S.A.F.E. Counseling Program Inc. is hosting the monthly The Tune-Up Workshop, designed to introduce the public to our Tools and to support S.A.F.E. graduates.
The Tune-Up Workshop welcomes all of our graduates who would like to refresh their knowledge of the Tools (like R.U.A.C.A.T.), receive support from S.A.F.E. and their own peers and give support to others in need.
The Tune-Up Workshop also welcomes new clients who would like to witness and experience our work.
When: Last Thursday of Each Month.
Who: Men and Women at gender-specific time slots.
Women's Workshop: 5:30-7:30.
Men’s Workshop: 7:30-9:30 PM.
No further commitment is expected.
Reserve a place: Call 215-750-0323 or E-mail Contact@supportivealliance.com
- Significant improvement in Quality of Communication: program assessment indicates a significant improvement in communication between partners (where one partner participated in the program).
- Low rates of offending or re-offending: among court-mandated clients 88% of women and 85% of men who completed the SAFE Counseling Program did not offend or re-offend.
Program assessment indicates that SAFE’s methods are effective in significantly improving the quality of communication between partners, where at least one partner participated in the program and in preventing future violent incidents, as reflected in low rates of arrest or re-arrest.
Of those who completed the SAFE Counseling Program, 88% of women and 85% of men did not offend or re-offend. The quantitative and qualitative research evaluates the progress of 423 clients (365 men and 58 women) who attended the program in the period of 2003 to the end of 2008. The latest data was collected in 2012. The clients were court-mandated, referred by Bucks County Children and Youth services or self-referred.
Validation for the effectiveness of SAFE’s progressive approach is found in latest research literature on offender rehabilitation, violence prevention and emotional trauma. At the core of SAFE’s approach is the premise that to stop violence one needs to help people to learn how to become conscious of their fears and to recognize their emotional wounds and what they can do to heal those emotional wounds and give themselves internal emotional support.
We say, “Got RUACAT?”
At the S.A.F.E. Counseling Program, Inc., a Supportive Alliance for Family Empowerment, we teach that the tools of emotional healing and meeting one’s emotional needs by exercising power over oneself, not others, are essential for living an empowered and fulfilled life while enjoying satisfying relationships with others. One such tool is giving RUACAT to oneself and to others. RUACAT is a humorous acronym describing a serious concept - the six kinds of love we all need as oxygen and deserve as a human right, yet we might be deprived of in our families of origin or robbed of by traumatic incidents.
For the definitions of RUACAT, please, click here: http://supportivealliance.com/the-ten-areas-in-common-for-partners-in-abusive-relationships-ruacat.html
S.A.F.E. believes that the definitions of RUACAT can serve as a manifesto of a contemporary approach to violence prevention, an approach that addresses the common risk and prevention factors for multiple forms of violence.
S.A.F.E. has been providing intervention services to male and female victims and perpetrators of domestic and interpersonal violence since 1982. Over more than three decades John Anthony Bochnowicz, the Director of S.A.F.E. has developed an innovative violence intervention program, and an emotional management and emotional healing program based on the understanding of both, victims and abusers - intimate partners (married or dating), parents and children, or any two people locked in an argument or a power-struggle.
Everyone deserves access to the tools of emotional freedom and independence that S.A.F.E. teaches. Now we are opening our doors to self-referred clients from the general public with a new focus – on prevention, education and support.
The old adage about “an ounce of prevention…” applies in the area of human relationships too (romantic and parent-child among others). S.A.F.E. advocates violence prevention and intervention through a process of emotional healing and mastering of one’s own self.
Some clients have described the emotional transformation they experienced while attending S.A.F.E.’s groups as a peace of mind that no one can disturb or take away and as freed-up emotional energy they are able to invest in themselves and their dream projects.
Anyone can have access to attending a healing support group and learning about primary and secondary emotions, giving and getting RUACAT, applying ATFR Squared, and using “The Sandwich” (as a client dubbed it with a smile) among other tools. Walk with us through the Four Dimensions of Healing on your way to self-empowerment and emotional freedom.
Practice RUACAT in your everyday interactions: Give RUACAT to yourself to be able to give RUACAT to others.
Call SAFE: Join the community of those who practice RUACAT.
Invite a Friend: Create a movement.
John Anthony Bochnowicz and Vera Tzenova-Bochnowicz
Decades of Emotional Healing and Empowerment Work:
FROM OUR FAMILY TO YOURS
Throughout decades of direct work in the filed of domestic violence and anger management we have heard over and over our clients express enthusiasm about passing on our tools and teaching them to a wider audience. Our clients feel pleased with the results, energized by their group work and frequently say: "where were you when I was in high school/getting married?" and "everyone can benefit from learning these tools!!"
Between us we hold forty four years of experience in working with perpetrators and victims of domestic violence and with anger management referrals. Our unique set of tools works not only for court mandated offenders but also for individuals seeking help on their own.
S.A.F.E. stands for Supportive Alliance for Family Empowerment, which is a unique approach to bringing safety and wellbeing to the entire family. We are excited about working with families before a crime is committed, and to provide intimate partner abuse prevention education to young and adult women and men in schools, universities, sororities, fraternities, sports teams and at work. Currently we are affiliated with The Peace Center in a non-profit organization in Langhorne, Pennsylvania. Besides on www.supportivealliance.com one can read more about us at http://www.thepeacecenter.org/programs/s-a-f-e/
Our tools are beneficial and accessible to every individual - child and adult, victim and perpetrator. Call to find out more – our tools they can be taught to a large and diverse audience yet touch individuals on a very personal level and effect personal change that is observable and is potentially life altering.
We are working to advance the safety and well being of all families for the sake of our clients, our community and our society as a whole..
Call, Come, Learn, Empower Yourself and Pass it on! Start a Movement!
We are excited of the possibilities of working with you!
Sincerely and with much hope for a collaboration,
John Anthony and Vera Bochnowicz
S.A.F.E. Counseling Program, Inc.
Read more about our work at: /resilience-building--violence-prevention-testimonies.html